Our children are the most valuable component of our lives. Our interaction with them, however, sometimes seems to be more characterized by hurt feelings and misunderstandings than it does by happiness. Often as not that is because we have failed in doing what parents are supposed to do, establish clear expectations and enable our children to meet those expectations.
One of the best ways for you to bond with your child is to play with them. Play all sorts of games – board games, sports, pretend games, etc. Enter the child’s world and have fun! This simple bonding technique can have lasting effects into adulthood for your child.
If you’re away on a trip without your child, make sure you call them at least once a day to tell them you miss them. This lets the child know that you love them and haven’t forgotten about them. You don’t want your child to feel like they’re not as important as your friends or your job are.
Parents with teenagers trying to decide on what college to attend, should not pressure them to choose the college parents want them to go to. Teenagers will often rebel against their parents’ wishes if they feel they are being overly controlling.
If you need to use the restroom, and your baby is upset at being placed in their carrier, turn on the bathroom fan and sink. Both of these noises mimic the sound of your heartbeat, which your baby was consistently soothed by in the womb. This technique should give you a few quiet minutes to take care of yourself.
Remember to reward good behavior with praise and recognition. Children usually hear more reprimands for bad behavior than praise for good behavior and that might become discouraging to them. However, if you praise them for specific good behavior that they have exhibited, their confidence will be lifted, and they will exhibit the good behavior more often.
Never yell at your children. It is best to talk to them with a calm voice, no matter how bad they are being. The more upset you get, the more upset they will get and things will spiral out of control very quickly. Keep your calm as much as possible.
If your child likes to take their pajamas and diapers off while they are in their crib or unattended, try this neat little trick. Cut the feet off of an old pair of footsie pajamas and put them on your child backwards. It will make it so they cannot unzip them and take them off.
Make sure you listen to what your child has to say. Listening can be anything from listening to them babble as babies, listening to how their day at school went, or listening to their problems. Kids want to know that you care enough to listen to them. If you listen to them, they’re more apt to listen to you.
The tips delineated above should prove indispensable in helping us teach our children just what it is that we expect and how they can go about achieving those expectations. That frees up our time, and theirs, for more positive one on one interaction with one another. What possibly could be a more important objective?